Friday, 25 January 2008

Dreadlocks or Dreadfully Locked

This is an article that was posted in one of the forums i am a member of and it really struck me, so i decided to re-post it here. I would love to hear people's opinions about it.

Dreadlocks or Dreadfully Locked? by Monica Arac de NyekoEveryone will tell you, hair is what makes a person, hair is sexy, hair tones attire, hair defines character, hair accessorises appearance, hair is imperative—it’ s all about hair, hair, hair. Women will sit in plaiting saloons until their butts ache and their legs freeze for the single pleasure of hair strands the size of spaghetti. The heat of the dryer is endured just for a single, momentary sparkling hair day. With all this fuss about hair and grooming, my friend Beatrice almost developed hypertension when I told her I was doing dreadlocks. My sister, if she could, would have whipped me and ordered me to go and sing in the church choir because I was so bored with life to the extent of considering such a dreadful sin as dreadlocks. Instead I received an occasional pat on the back and some sincere and well-meant reminders that I was still in Uganda, Africa, and not the United States or Caribbean, and that I should not forget that I was a schoolteacher. No school would stand a deadlocked teacher in class! I nevertheless took the step and knotted my hair to dreadlocks. People have said they who wear dreadlocks do so “to cause rejection,” to feel different from others, to feel more secure about themselves, to show off, or to demonstrate they belong to a peer group. Another thing related to dreadlocks is marijuana use. Some also associate dreadlocks with nonconformity. And for others, only dirty people who never wash wear dreadlocks. Yet another twist to this is that most people in Uganda and other African societies find dreadlocks more acceptable for men than the women. I remember a passing comment a friend made when I made my intentions known: “But you are woman, not a man. Don’t forget that some things are better left for men!” Perhaps this is because most of these communities have a heavy patriarchal idealised perception. It has always been okay for the male sex to do most things—good or bad—and get away with them because the male is a symbol of authority and respect. Whatever he does is justifiable to the community. So if a woman’s husband chooses to wear dreadlocks, she would find it difficult to tell him to do otherwise because she is only the wife. If the son wore dreadlocks, the parents would find this more tolerable than if it was the daughter who chose to wear it.

Misunderstood HairstyleNever has a hairstyle been so dreaded and misunderstood, and generated so many rumours and beliefs. Before I myself began wearing my locks, I thought it was a male thing. I am not sure why as I ponder over the perception now, but perhaps it was because the majority of dreadlocks wearers I had come across were male or maybe because everyone around me said so. I had the pleasure of joining Dreadlocks, an electronic discussion forum where people of colour, specifically Black people, discuss every aspect of Dreadlocks. One of the discussants who prefers to call herself Te said of men and women wearing dreadlocks: “It is my observation that women with locks are more accepted than men with locks.” Perhaps to her it was because women traditionally have longer hair, or because men are viewed as threatening when they promote their cultural attributes (African roots) while women are perceived as only wearing a hairstyle. Chango, another discussant, posed the question “Accepted by whom?” Does this mean that to him, acceptance by whomever of whatever was not necessary? He says that he often does and says things that are not part of a group because he enjoys thinking for himself. When he was in his 20s, it was important to secure the approval and acceptance of other black people, so he put a Scary Curl in his hair and even considered getting gold caps on his teeth. But now that he is older, he doesn’t care what his mother, his women or his boss think, he enjoys the dreadlocks.
For most dreadlocks wearers, male or female, the question has not been “Should I wear dreadlocks because it’s acceptable for my gender?” Either way, it’s not a question of when dreadlocks will gain acceptance as just another hairstyle because most people are too hostile anyway to even consider dreadlocks decent. Says an instructional guide from the School of Allied Health Professions:Men’s hair must be neatly trimmed and not fall below the collar. Ponytails, spikes, and dreadlocks are not acceptable. Women’s hair, if long, may be required to be tied back. Spikes and dreadlocks are not acceptable.Dreadlocks are rejected despite the gender of the wearer. A female visitor to St. Louis said of people’s reactions toward her dreadlocks, “A number of people in St. Louis took one look at me and ran for their cute little lives, pulling out chequebooks on which to write big donations to right-wing causes as they ran. Because dreadlocks indicate confusion of thought and character—good children have shiny, combed hair. Bad children, poor children, have bushy, urchin hair.”
It’s clear that the hair issue is not something anyone can run away from. Long or short hair, for instance, has been used as an identity of femaleness and maleness at different points in history and in different cultures. For dreadlocks, that is not the case. This is because for anyone who wears dreadlocks, it’s for a reason they best know—a reason and definitely close to their heart, identifiable on a personal level, not at a generalized level. Identity and NonconformityThe most common connotation of dreadlocks, which dates back to the 1920s, is religious and derived from the Rastafarians. The most familiar feature of Rastafarian culture is the growing and wearing of dreadlocks—uncombed and uncut hair allowed to knot and mat into distinctive locks. Rastafarians regarded the locks as both a sign of their African identity and a religious vow of their separation from the wider society they regarded as Babylon. At a different point in history, dreadlocks were also common during the Mau Mau uprising in Kenya in the 1950s and 1960s when the top leaders often wore dreadlocks. They are said to have used dreadlocks as a sign of African identity and a religious vow of separation from modern, corrupt and unfair society. Some other dreadlocks wearers justify the style as a biblical revelation. “All the days of the vow of the separation there shall no razor come upon his head until the days are fulfilled for which he separated himself to the Lord, he shall be holy, and shall let the locks of the hair of his head grow.” (Numbers 6:5) “His head is as the fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven.” (Songs of Solomon 6:11) “Solomon said, if he will show himself a worthy man, there shall not a hair of him fall to the earth.” (1 Kings 1:52)Everyone who wears dreadlocks has a historical, cultural, political, ideological or just fashionable reason and significance behind doing so. But it is important to state that although not in all cases, many wearers of dreadlocks have an intense awareness of, and sensitivity to, their roots and culture. They are a positive statement about African values and are a powerful symbol of ethnic pride. Many of the people with “dreads” have a strong awareness of their ethnicity. However, the art of a perfectly executed dreadlock creation is a testimony to the individualism and creativity of the men and women who wear and contribute to the beauty of this style.I for one am a Christian. I believe in God and Jesus Christ. I believe in love, faith, humility, and perseverance and in all the things the bible requires of me. I believe in the rights for humanity. I work and I do my work to the best of my ability and talent. Dreadlocks bear witness to the fact that I know, practice, and understand who I am. It is an avenue through which I choose to express my individualism. I know dreadlocks carry a lot of negative associations; however, I will not cut them until I get tired of them. My knotted hair draws attention to my value for life; my acceptance to be creative and complex, to live and to love; and my agreement with nature to pursue happiness.
It should be remembered, however, that not everyone can wear dreadlocks, and dreadlocks cannot be for everyone. It is a unique hairstyle. It sets the person apart from everyone else in a certain way; the only problem is that people view it all in negativity. Sophie a friend a few days ago told me, “ Everyone who wears dreadlocks probably has no sense in their heads.” And I asked what she meant, if she meant therefore that I had no sense in my head because I chose to dread my hair, and she said, “It’s only after you speak that the sense comes out.” She probably said that because when you wear dreadlocks in a way society believes you have crossed a boundary. But dreadlocks, no matter the attitude toward them, are decent and striking. Dreadlocks are time saving and give a great feeling, as long as you take good care of them and keep them clean, of course. Wearing dreads is like a brotherhood or sisterhood kind of thing that not too many people would understand and open theirminds to. It is with this in mind that one who wears dreadlocks doesn’t pass another dread head on the street without some nod or smile of acknowledgement.Slowly but surely, dreadlocks are coming to be accepted in almost all spheres of life—sports, arts, the professions. People who associate them with illegal substances or criminality miss the whole point. Jeffrey Bradley, in his book Don’t Worry Be Nappy, says that to him, dreadlocks symbolise success, freedom, self-expression, and naturalness. For him, dreadlocks have become a declaration of determination to succeed in life on his own terms. And Neely Fuller Jr. in his essay Do not “worship” hair says Don’t spend great time and/or effort: combing it, twisting it, patting it, brushing it, pulling it, greasing it, oiling it, shaping it, or looking at it. Don’t spend so much time/effort, wondering about whether your hair is “right” or “wrong” or “good” or “bad.” Don’t worry about the hair: on your head, on your chin, on your face, over your eyelids, etc. Show more concern about the lack of constructive knowledge inside your head. He said it best for me.

Monica Arac de Nyeko was born and raised in Uganda. She is a teacher of literature at St Mary’s College Kisubi (SMACK), and a fellow on Crossing Boarders, a British Council-funded Creative Writer’s Course. Her forthcoming fiction is by Fountain Publishers and Greenwillow books.

Monday, 21 January 2008

5 months lcoked

I can't believe that i have been locked 5 months today! There isnt actually that much to report on the hair front. To me it still looks the same as it did last month. I did go longer before washing it last Friday (18:01:08), waiting 5 weeks. It was really itchy after the re-tight and i wanted to wash it then, but it pasted. It wasnt itchy so i didnt bother to wash it, but then it got really itchy last week and thought yep time for a wash. I took my time B&B so not to cause slippage and i think all is well. I have my next re-tight in two weeks so i will see then. I could do with a re-tight now but 2 wks should pass quickly.

One thing i am looking forward to is being able to put my hair in water and not be concerned. the other week i had a bath, dont get it twisted i bathe every day but usually a shower. I really really wanted to put my head under the bath water but i had not B&B so i could not. Once my locks are matured that is one of the first things i will do

Below are pics of my locs








Monday, 17 December 2007

3rd Re-tight

Last Thursday (13:12:07) i had my 3rd retighening. My locs havent started to form yet :( i was hoping that it might of but it has not. My hair is soft so i guess it will take me a while. There was some slippage at the back. Liz said she was doing 2 rotations when it should be one. We think the problem could be down to washing as that usally causes slippage. Although i do B&B, i realise that i do the front part small and neatly and when i get to the back i kinda do it any ol how. So next time i wash i will start B&B from the back so i can make sure that is done proper. Also i do not think the styling didnt help, although there was no slippage at the front. So i will ease up on that. Liz didnt tell me off but did say i shouldnt do it, which i already knew. Nothing new to report really, not much has changed.

Below as promised, is some of the pics from the meet-up we had in Oct.


Below me and my friend , looking at the goodie bag we got



Below me looking at some jewellery. The lady made her own using real gem stones

Michelle the Co-organiser of the meet-up. There are some products from the pampering club she does

Below are just various pics



Sunday, 2 December 2007

Pipe Cleaner Curls


Well i promised if i did do curls using pipe cleaners that i would post the pics, so here they are. I put my hair in the PC on Thur evening, spritzin each section with water. I would have done it after i had washed my hair but i had washed it 4 days earlier and i didnt want to curl it then. It took much longer to put in than i thought it would. I was watchin tv whilst i did it and i think it took approx 2.5 hrs! yep that is not a typo 2.5 hrs. The PC that i had were too long so i had to cut them into 3, even then they were a bit too long for some sections. I think i used approx 59 PC altogether. I left the PC in over Friday. I took the day of work but i had to go into town so i had to cover my head as the PC were multi-coloured. I had a lacy scarf i used to use but of course you could see the PC through it. I bought a new satin scarf but some unknown reason i decided to buy a bright red one, so it would have been seen through. So in the end i put on the satin scarf, then put on a black cotton one and cos i dont really like it i had to put the lacy one on top of that. Talk about heavy. Luckily i was only out for a few hours and when i got back in it was a relief to get it off. I took the PC out Sat morning, the results can been seen below




I was in two minds about whether to leave my hair like that as i really loved the curls, but when i saw the back i thought, messy and decided to seperate the locs. But now i wish that i had just seperated the back and left the front ones in. The pics below were taken after i tried to tame the curls a lil. Its a pity that you don't full effect of how curly it was in the pics. I got loads of compliments at church so that was kool. Even though i loved the way my hair looked i think it would look better once the locs are formed.





Well i have tried 3 styles now and i am gona try and hold off styling until my locs have settled as i know it hinders the locking process. But i may do bantu knots at Christmas :)

Oh on a different note. I washed my hair last sun. The T/Gel seemed to have worked ok so far. I did one wash with that concentrating on my scalp. I didnt like the SL starter shampoo so i threw the rest away and i used the JML tingle shampoo that i brought. That felt fantastic, i think bcos it containted menthol so felt like my whole scalp head was being cleansed it was lovely. And i have a cold at the mo so it cleared my head inside as well. So far my head hasnt been itchy so i will see how it goes, esp after my next retightening. I hope i have found sommit that works. The only thing i didnt like about the JML was that it was soo thick that even though i had mixed it 1:1 with water it was still hard to spray it out of the bottle.

I shall keep you posted. Thanx for stopping by

Friday, 23 November 2007

Bantu knots

Well i was inspired by Sunsil's pic so i thought i would try Bantu knots in my hair. Yes i know i am being naughty as i shudnt really be styling my hair til its settled but i am being a rebel. Anyway since tryin the styles i am loving my hair more. I wont do it too often i am jus trying for now. I wasnt plannin of doin the bantu knots, but yday i was jus sat watchin tv and i thought why not try it so i did. I jus spritzed each one with water, so i dont know how long it will hold. I am not using products on my hair. When i do i will tryin it with sommit to hold it. Also if i had planned it i would have done it in the morning so i could leave the knots in longer. But it still seemed to work ok. The only thing is that bcos i wasnt sure which direction to twist the hair, some of the curls go up instead of down, but i dont think it looks too bad. Infact my supervisor said my hair looked lovely.

The pics below were taken after i tried to tame the curls and do some styling. I also went to the shops and brought some handbands. I love this one but i now realise that its too tight so it hurts and was givin me headaches :(




I have also managed to get some pipe cleaners, so when i try that i will post some pics

Tuesday, 20 November 2007

Fed-up and braid out

Last week Thursday i woke up and i felt really fed-up with my hair in fact i thought that i hated it and i wanted to shave it off. I was bored with it, and i was sick of the constant itching. No matter what i tried, ACV, tea tree EO, witchhazel it didnt seem to make any difference. Also some of my locs seemed lumpy. There was one loc i had noticed at the back that seemed to have a knot in it. I couldnt for the life of me seem able to get a pic of it so i could have a look at it. I know that Liz said my hair was fine and is doing what its meant to, but i was feeling fed-up. Anyway i did a post on LIU and i got some supportive responses. One of them suggested using original listerine. Never tried that but it may be something to consider. There was another suggest of using Scalpicin. I have never heard of it and i hope i can purchase it in the UK. I will check when i'm next at the hair shops (none where i live :( I did purchase some T/Gel therapeutic shampoo so next time i wash my hair i will give it a go and see if that will help.

I was looking to purchase some soft-spike curlers although Liz said not to style my hair just yet as it's soft. Also too much styling can hinder the locking process before the locs have settled. Then i saw a blog (sorry i cant r'ber her name) where she used pipe cleaners to curl her hair, and they looked gr8. So i am gona try and get some of them and give it ago. However it is harder to find pipe cleaners than i thought it would be. I havent given up yet few more shops i want to check. I think i may do curls for my bday and if i do i will post some pics.

On Sunday i was doing some house work and for some reason i started to plait my hair. I did one or two and thought oh why not try a braid out. I only half heartedly did it. The plaits were different sizes. Also by the time i finished what i was doing and sat down to work on the back i was too tired so i didnt really pay much attention to it. In fact some i two-stranded instead of plaiting. I just sprayed each section with water before plaiting and left over night. I took it out the next morning and i was like WOW my hair looks mad. I loved it, although i looked like i had a big boff on my head. It was mad, wild and free and i loved it. Although some bits seem to stick up at the back, but that was my fault for not paying attention to what i was doing. The pics below were taken as soon as i had taken the plaits out.





Wednesday, 7 November 2007

2nd Re-Tight Updates

Well i don’t know where to start with this update, as there have been things that I wanted to post but I have been too lazy to post, as I knew I would be doing a post after my 2nd re-tightening.

Ok I will start with my worry. I thought that some of my locs were looking lumpy and bumpy. Some of them to me seemed to have 3 parts. A lump where the re-growth ended and the loc started, a lump where the loc ended at the installation and a lump where the curly qs started. I tried to take pics to show what I am talking about but they haven’t come out very clear, but you can see them below to get an idea. Also it seemed to me that my hair was shrinking and comin out of the pattern at the side of the locs, its hard to describe exactly what I mean and of course u can’t tell in the pics. Anyway at my 2nd re-tightening (06:11:07 or for the Americans 11:06:07 (you do your day and month the other way round to us Brits), Liz said that everything was fine, my hair was doing exactly what it is meant to be doin. I also had one loc that had a hole in it, and that worried me as well. Anyway I know that I am prone to worry and I knew Liz would say that everything is fine. I have noticed however that some of the locs seem to curl up near the root and seem to form a knot, but it I pull it the knot comes out. And no I do not think these are buds as they wouldn’t come out. Too me it seems that my hair is coming out. I think that my hair is just mad. Don't get me wrong i know things are fine i am jus sharing some of my worries which were laid to rest when i saw my consultant.


Below are pics I took before and after the re-tightening. The ones on the left of the sets were taken after i had washed my hair before the re-tightening. The ones on the right were taken after the re-tight

My second wash was fine. I had read on LIU that someone does not braid their hair but two-strands it and then band. I do not know how mature their locs are but I thought I would give it ago. There did not seem to be any probs with me doin this and it is soooo much quicker than braiding. Although I do find the whole process tedious but I understand that it’s necessary. I brought Fantasia IC 100% tea shampoo (whose smell I love) as I wanted a clarifying shampoo. I was not certain if I could use it for two washes as it did not say on the bottle and most say rinse and repeat. So I used it for the first wash and then I used my SL starter shampoo that I had. I don’t know if its right, but I think the journey is about trial and error and finding out what works for you and your hair so that is what I am doing.

The London Sisterlocks and Natural Hair Meet-up was on Sunday 28:10:07. The meet-up was informal more of information gathering of how ppl would like the meet-ups to go. It was nice to see Michelle (the organiser) and hear her story. It was also nice to see other ppl there with SL. One of the down sides was the restaurant, which we had no control over. On their website the restaurant claims that they are open for business from 3pm, which is the time we booked for. But when we got there the shutters were down. Michelle had arrived about 15 mins earlier and was only able to get in bcos someone was there on other business. Apparently it was a mess and she had to clean up. The owner didn’t come until after 5 and I had to wait til after 6:30 to get my food. I can tell you I was not impressed. Esp as you know you are going out to a restaurant you don’t eat as you are expecting to eat and you don’t want two meals. That aside on the whole it was nice. I did take my cam, but ended up not takin pics bcos there was a photographer there. Michelle promised that she will send me the pics so when she does I will update my blog.


The pics below are a comparison of the day my locs were installed (on left) with my 2nd re-tight (right). I know its a little early for compariosn but i wanted to do it