Tuesday, 22 July 2008

Longest While - 11 Months Locked

Wow time has really flown. I can't believe its been 3 months since i did my last entry and i can't believe i've been locked ELEVEN MONTHS! WOW! Next month will be my first locaversary woohoo!

Well i have been mad busy as i am doing my doctoral training so it has taken up so much of my time. I am finished for the mo, phew! I haven't really focused on my hair as i've been too busy, i've kinda left it to do its thang. However i know realise that maybe i did the hair class at the wrong time. Oh though i am glad i did it i am behind on my tightening so my hair is all over the place. Some are tightened and others need to be tightened, its not uniform. I would start a section get bogged down with assignments, few weeks would past before i do another. Not the way to do it at all. But its my fault as i should have just contacted Liz to see if she could have fitted me in. I dread to think what i have done to it. Well i have an appt in Aug so i will get the news then.

Ok i've noticed a few funny things about my locs probably due to poor maintainence. The pic below was taken in June and you can see that its skinny in the middle. Dont know why. If i r'ber correctly i pulled the bottom half off as i couldnt see the point in having it hangin on. I have a few locs that are skinny at the root and fat at the ends. But i think that is due to me marrying locs and when i tried to seperate them i had to cut a few strands.



The pic below is of two different size locs i had, skinny and fatter next to each other. Don't know how that happened


I've also noticed that my ends tend to break. My hair never broke this much before i was locked. Someone suggested that maybe my hair is dry so i need to get some oils to moisturise it. I was using fresh rosemary that i had boiled, strained but i dont see any difference. I do have some sweet alomond oil and some EO but i have used them before and they dont seem to work. Maybe i need to go and buy some ready mixed ones. I still spray my hair with water almost every day. The pic below are clumps of knotted ends that i pulled off one time after i had washed my hair. I tend to notice them more after i have washed my hair. I have always hated the curly qs i guess its something i have to put up with til my hair seals or i have some length and can cut it off. I did wonder if they were buds but i dont know really what they look like. Plus i thought buds started in the middle not at the ends



So on the whole not much to report my hair is just doing its thing. My friend took a pic the other day and i was like, wow my hair is locking and it looks good. When i get a copy of the pic i will post it so you can see. But i will defo post my yr pics

****UPDATE*****

These pics were taken at the end of June but you get some idea of the way my hair looks. Sorry had to black out the baby but you can still see the locs.




This is the pic i was talking about when i looked at it and thought, hang on my locs look pretty good. The pic was taken last Sat. Dont ask me what i was doing as i don't know, my friend is just trigger happy and is always snapping pics

Monday, 21 April 2008

Updates- 8 months and more


Wow I cant believe it has been so long since I have made a proper entry. I guess it is due to a combination of things inc. So it will take me a while to update you on what has been going on. I will probably have to keep updating my entry as for some reason I cannot save draft posts.

Well my locs are now 8 months old 2day. Time has really flown by. In fact I didn’t even register that I had reached 7 months. One day I was just like, hang on it was the 21st the other day, that means I have reached 7 months locked. I had been meaning to update regarding the hair class, my first DIY, which I guess I will do now.

I was really nervous and excited about doing the hair class. I was excited as doing my hair myself would give me total freedom. I was nervous as I would be doing my hair myself and it has not been something that I have ever been good at. I was also scared that I would mess it up. But Liz wouldn’t have recommended me doing it unless she thought I would be able to. There was 5 of us all together doing the class. One girl had micros, I don’t know how she would manage to do it. My locs ain’t small and I found it hard enough. Out of the tools I don’t like the hook tool. I find the clip tool much easier to use, although I find that it pulls on my loc where it is attached. It may be bcos the ends are still loose, I don’t know. Another problem I find is that bcos the end is quite wide it can be hard to get it through the loc when it is close to the scalp. A few time I have gotton it stuck and I’ve had to really wiggle it to get it free. I don’t know if I will get another tool. I know people have used latch hooks and they are cheap and as far as I know easy to use. But I have heard that it can catch in the loc, so I am not sure yet. I was also thinking of getting a nappyloc tool. However this video was posted in one of the groups that I belong to, and this lady made her own tool similar to the nappyloc tool and it is cheaper and it seems to do the job. So I dunno if I will give it that a go as well.

One thing i dont like about doin my own hair is that it takes so long. I love just going to Liz sitting for 2 hrs and Booyah its done. And it hurts my arms holding it up there. But that is to be expected. There are sacrifices that have to be made. You loose in one area you gain in another. So although it takes a while i have the freedom of doin it when i want. So if i notice a loc is slippin i can put it back in myself. I was scared that i had messed up my partings esp at the front. I thought i'd paid alot of money to get SL bcos of the partings and i didnt want to mess them up. I went to Liz to get it checked out after my first DIY and she said it was fine and that i did a good job :D. I do find the back easier to do than the front. I dont know what other's experience is. I am expecting to loose a few locs. A few times i joined two locs by a few strands, so i had to cut the strand to seperate the locs. As it was only a few strands i am hoping it wont be too bad. However i did create a two-headed dragon and for the life of me i coudnt seperate them. So in the end i had to cut them , so i am left with two skinny locs at the roots and fatter at the ends. So i expect they will break at some point. To be honest i am not really that bothered. I r'ber when i lost a loc early in the journy (see previous posting) and i was totally gutted. Yes, i dont want my hair to be falling out and i want to maintain them proper, but i realise that it's jus hair, not the end of the world and it will grow back. So i dont sweat it.

Ok i will continue this entry another time. It's a pain not being able to save draft posts. But hey that's life and maybe it will be easier to read coming back rather than reading one long post. Dunno.


The pics below are taken from the SL meet-up that we had yesterday – to be continued

Oh dear i can't r'ber what i was going to say, never mind. The meet-up was good though and it was good to see other fellow sisterlockers.

Me and my lovely consultant Liz

Me and Julie, who is another consultant. Loving the Colour

Me and Lady Den

Whoops i have forgotton their names. But they are fellow clients of Liz

Florence and I. We did the hair class together

Liz's daughter

I bought some soft spikes at the meet-up and below are pics of my first try. Must say i am loving them. Although i do not find them comfy to sleep in. But then again i have never slept in the normal hard rollers so i don't know how they compare. Others say soft spikes are much better.





Thursday, 21 February 2008

6 Months Locked WOOHOO

Wow i have been locked 6 months 2day, woohoo. The time has flown by. I havent really got that much to say right now, or it could be because i am tired. Happy that my hair is locking and I am excited about taking the class in 2 weeks time. Not much has changed with my hair since my last post or my hair routine. I spritz my hair with water with some drops of rosemary EO and sweet almond oil. I haven't conditioned my hair yet, maybe i will try it. Although my hair is locking i am still scared that there will be some slippage, so i dont want to try that yet. I will double check with Liz when i go to the class. Hmmm ok i have nothing else to say. Oh yeah on a different note my glasses broke 2day as i was cleaning them the frame just snapped. I was not impressed at all. Lucky i have contacts but i dont wear them often. Ordered 2 new pairs, it was buy one get one free, but they wont be here til next week. My hair is in need of a wash at the mo but i am waiting til 2mo after my workout. I also want to do some bantu knots for Sabbath, i'll see about posting some of those pics as well. Nothing much else to say but if i think of anything i will add it later. Although i am not convinced that people actually read the writing.


These two pics were taken last Saturday. I decided to try a little styling. I havent done this style since i had relaxed hair. I got quite a few compliments.



Comparison of my locs on day of installation to 6 months. How you think my locks are doin??

****UPDATE****

As promised here are pics of the bantu knot out that i did for church 2day (23:02:08). I got quite a few compliments for the style and i am pleased with the way it turned out. Ppl said i looked different, i am not sure want they are talking about. Maybe its cos i am not wearing my glasses. Maybe its cos my locs are curly although i have worn this style before. Maybe its bcos i decided to wear make-up. Maybe its a combination. One person said i looked about 16, which i dont see at all. How old do u think i am?





Monday, 11 February 2008

I've been tagged,

Ok well i have been tagged twice in one evening. I do not fully know what i am meant to do but i will give it ago. As i understand it i am meant to copy and paste the instructions from the blog of whoever tagged me. I am not 100% certain of how to link the ppl who tagged me but i will try. I was tagged by Kisha and also Tamara

1) Link to the person(s) that tagged you.
2) Post the rules on your blog.
3) Share 6 non important quirks/things/habits about yourself.
4) Tag 6 random, people at the end of your post by linking to their blogs. (Her link is posted on the right side of this page)
5) Let each person know that they have been tagged by leaving a post on their blog.

Ok here are the 6 things about myself

  1. I hate talking about myself as i never know what to say. I prefer to answer specific questions so that you get the info you want. I hate it when ppl say to me, so tell me about yourself, to which i usually reply what to do want to know. But on the other hand i hate answering a load of questions that i think i am completing a survey
  2. I am a shy person and i can quite easily go somewhere new and not speak to anyone but that is sommit i am working on. I've been told i am mad when you get to know me
  3. i can get really bad road rage and its the only time i swear which i hate as i dont want to swear. Middle lane drivers bug me, move over you aint over taking anything and stop forcing everyone else into the 3rd lane to over-take you properly. I have been know to under-take, which i know is naughty. Also ppl who move infront of you and then dont go anywhere, move over. Tail-gaters, yes your car may be faster than mine but if the middle lane drivers moved over i wouldnt need to be in this lane, back off. However, i am not to bad in traffic jams as we aint moving, its when i can be moving and some idiot is crawling along in front of me. Anyway, deep breath and onto the next one LOL
  4. I also hate stupid fwd emails. Things that are thought provoking i do not mind but silly things bug me. I doubt very much that Bill Gates is gona give you a dollar for every person you fwd the email to, i dont care if the world will implode in the next 5 mins if i do not fwd this to everyone on my list, hotmail is not closing down and i do not need to fwd to everyone to show i still use it, fwd petitions are a waste of time as it just becomes fragmented as ppl fwd it it needs to be centralised. and the list goes on
  5. I love chocolate-chip cookie dough Ben and Jerrys Ice Cream, mmmmm yummy
  6. I am a Seventh-day Adventist Christian
Ok now i have to find 6 random ppl to tag. I am sure that most ppl have already been tagged so i am on the hunt: Kathryn, Sunsail, this is so hard as everyone seems to have been tagged already Fee, loveablelocs, Elizabeth, and Cashana

Tuesday, 5 February 2008

Funky Grey Goo

Today i was due for a re-tight and it needed it. I was washing my hair in preparation and i noticed that i had some funky grey goo on my scalp which surprised me as i have not used any products in my hair. I was a lil worried as i didnt know what it was. I was using my JML tingle shampoo but bcos of this goo i used the IC pure tea shampoo to clarify it and then i did an ACV rinse and it appears to have gone. What is weird is that it did not look like dirt so i dunno wot is was. I did mention it to Liz and she said maybe my hair needs a good wash. Pics below but not very clear

Anyway, Liz said my hair is locking so i was happy as i didnt think it was yet. As my ends dont look like they are sealing and i still have curly qs i didnt think the process had started yet. But Liz thinks my ends will be unsealed for a while yet. And i r'ber Michelle from the meet-up ends were still unsealed after 3 yrs. But what made my smile even bigger is that she is doing a re-tightening class in March and she said that i can take it, WOOHOO!! I am a lil nervous about maintaining my hair myself but i know it will be total freedom. Liz said that my hair is comely along nicely, which is gd as i was doubting it. She also said i can more or less do what i want to do with my hair now, i can style it, condition it but i think i will hold off still for a bit. Although i may start using oils to moisturise it. So at the mo i have a silly big grin on myself and i am excited. I am 16 days shy of my 6 months locaversary. I was thinkin of puttin pics on now but i will wait til then

Friday, 25 January 2008

Dreadlocks or Dreadfully Locked

This is an article that was posted in one of the forums i am a member of and it really struck me, so i decided to re-post it here. I would love to hear people's opinions about it.

Dreadlocks or Dreadfully Locked? by Monica Arac de NyekoEveryone will tell you, hair is what makes a person, hair is sexy, hair tones attire, hair defines character, hair accessorises appearance, hair is imperative—it’ s all about hair, hair, hair. Women will sit in plaiting saloons until their butts ache and their legs freeze for the single pleasure of hair strands the size of spaghetti. The heat of the dryer is endured just for a single, momentary sparkling hair day. With all this fuss about hair and grooming, my friend Beatrice almost developed hypertension when I told her I was doing dreadlocks. My sister, if she could, would have whipped me and ordered me to go and sing in the church choir because I was so bored with life to the extent of considering such a dreadful sin as dreadlocks. Instead I received an occasional pat on the back and some sincere and well-meant reminders that I was still in Uganda, Africa, and not the United States or Caribbean, and that I should not forget that I was a schoolteacher. No school would stand a deadlocked teacher in class! I nevertheless took the step and knotted my hair to dreadlocks. People have said they who wear dreadlocks do so “to cause rejection,” to feel different from others, to feel more secure about themselves, to show off, or to demonstrate they belong to a peer group. Another thing related to dreadlocks is marijuana use. Some also associate dreadlocks with nonconformity. And for others, only dirty people who never wash wear dreadlocks. Yet another twist to this is that most people in Uganda and other African societies find dreadlocks more acceptable for men than the women. I remember a passing comment a friend made when I made my intentions known: “But you are woman, not a man. Don’t forget that some things are better left for men!” Perhaps this is because most of these communities have a heavy patriarchal idealised perception. It has always been okay for the male sex to do most things—good or bad—and get away with them because the male is a symbol of authority and respect. Whatever he does is justifiable to the community. So if a woman’s husband chooses to wear dreadlocks, she would find it difficult to tell him to do otherwise because she is only the wife. If the son wore dreadlocks, the parents would find this more tolerable than if it was the daughter who chose to wear it.

Misunderstood HairstyleNever has a hairstyle been so dreaded and misunderstood, and generated so many rumours and beliefs. Before I myself began wearing my locks, I thought it was a male thing. I am not sure why as I ponder over the perception now, but perhaps it was because the majority of dreadlocks wearers I had come across were male or maybe because everyone around me said so. I had the pleasure of joining Dreadlocks, an electronic discussion forum where people of colour, specifically Black people, discuss every aspect of Dreadlocks. One of the discussants who prefers to call herself Te said of men and women wearing dreadlocks: “It is my observation that women with locks are more accepted than men with locks.” Perhaps to her it was because women traditionally have longer hair, or because men are viewed as threatening when they promote their cultural attributes (African roots) while women are perceived as only wearing a hairstyle. Chango, another discussant, posed the question “Accepted by whom?” Does this mean that to him, acceptance by whomever of whatever was not necessary? He says that he often does and says things that are not part of a group because he enjoys thinking for himself. When he was in his 20s, it was important to secure the approval and acceptance of other black people, so he put a Scary Curl in his hair and even considered getting gold caps on his teeth. But now that he is older, he doesn’t care what his mother, his women or his boss think, he enjoys the dreadlocks.
For most dreadlocks wearers, male or female, the question has not been “Should I wear dreadlocks because it’s acceptable for my gender?” Either way, it’s not a question of when dreadlocks will gain acceptance as just another hairstyle because most people are too hostile anyway to even consider dreadlocks decent. Says an instructional guide from the School of Allied Health Professions:Men’s hair must be neatly trimmed and not fall below the collar. Ponytails, spikes, and dreadlocks are not acceptable. Women’s hair, if long, may be required to be tied back. Spikes and dreadlocks are not acceptable.Dreadlocks are rejected despite the gender of the wearer. A female visitor to St. Louis said of people’s reactions toward her dreadlocks, “A number of people in St. Louis took one look at me and ran for their cute little lives, pulling out chequebooks on which to write big donations to right-wing causes as they ran. Because dreadlocks indicate confusion of thought and character—good children have shiny, combed hair. Bad children, poor children, have bushy, urchin hair.”
It’s clear that the hair issue is not something anyone can run away from. Long or short hair, for instance, has been used as an identity of femaleness and maleness at different points in history and in different cultures. For dreadlocks, that is not the case. This is because for anyone who wears dreadlocks, it’s for a reason they best know—a reason and definitely close to their heart, identifiable on a personal level, not at a generalized level. Identity and NonconformityThe most common connotation of dreadlocks, which dates back to the 1920s, is religious and derived from the Rastafarians. The most familiar feature of Rastafarian culture is the growing and wearing of dreadlocks—uncombed and uncut hair allowed to knot and mat into distinctive locks. Rastafarians regarded the locks as both a sign of their African identity and a religious vow of their separation from the wider society they regarded as Babylon. At a different point in history, dreadlocks were also common during the Mau Mau uprising in Kenya in the 1950s and 1960s when the top leaders often wore dreadlocks. They are said to have used dreadlocks as a sign of African identity and a religious vow of separation from modern, corrupt and unfair society. Some other dreadlocks wearers justify the style as a biblical revelation. “All the days of the vow of the separation there shall no razor come upon his head until the days are fulfilled for which he separated himself to the Lord, he shall be holy, and shall let the locks of the hair of his head grow.” (Numbers 6:5) “His head is as the fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven.” (Songs of Solomon 6:11) “Solomon said, if he will show himself a worthy man, there shall not a hair of him fall to the earth.” (1 Kings 1:52)Everyone who wears dreadlocks has a historical, cultural, political, ideological or just fashionable reason and significance behind doing so. But it is important to state that although not in all cases, many wearers of dreadlocks have an intense awareness of, and sensitivity to, their roots and culture. They are a positive statement about African values and are a powerful symbol of ethnic pride. Many of the people with “dreads” have a strong awareness of their ethnicity. However, the art of a perfectly executed dreadlock creation is a testimony to the individualism and creativity of the men and women who wear and contribute to the beauty of this style.I for one am a Christian. I believe in God and Jesus Christ. I believe in love, faith, humility, and perseverance and in all the things the bible requires of me. I believe in the rights for humanity. I work and I do my work to the best of my ability and talent. Dreadlocks bear witness to the fact that I know, practice, and understand who I am. It is an avenue through which I choose to express my individualism. I know dreadlocks carry a lot of negative associations; however, I will not cut them until I get tired of them. My knotted hair draws attention to my value for life; my acceptance to be creative and complex, to live and to love; and my agreement with nature to pursue happiness.
It should be remembered, however, that not everyone can wear dreadlocks, and dreadlocks cannot be for everyone. It is a unique hairstyle. It sets the person apart from everyone else in a certain way; the only problem is that people view it all in negativity. Sophie a friend a few days ago told me, “ Everyone who wears dreadlocks probably has no sense in their heads.” And I asked what she meant, if she meant therefore that I had no sense in my head because I chose to dread my hair, and she said, “It’s only after you speak that the sense comes out.” She probably said that because when you wear dreadlocks in a way society believes you have crossed a boundary. But dreadlocks, no matter the attitude toward them, are decent and striking. Dreadlocks are time saving and give a great feeling, as long as you take good care of them and keep them clean, of course. Wearing dreads is like a brotherhood or sisterhood kind of thing that not too many people would understand and open theirminds to. It is with this in mind that one who wears dreadlocks doesn’t pass another dread head on the street without some nod or smile of acknowledgement.Slowly but surely, dreadlocks are coming to be accepted in almost all spheres of life—sports, arts, the professions. People who associate them with illegal substances or criminality miss the whole point. Jeffrey Bradley, in his book Don’t Worry Be Nappy, says that to him, dreadlocks symbolise success, freedom, self-expression, and naturalness. For him, dreadlocks have become a declaration of determination to succeed in life on his own terms. And Neely Fuller Jr. in his essay Do not “worship” hair says Don’t spend great time and/or effort: combing it, twisting it, patting it, brushing it, pulling it, greasing it, oiling it, shaping it, or looking at it. Don’t spend so much time/effort, wondering about whether your hair is “right” or “wrong” or “good” or “bad.” Don’t worry about the hair: on your head, on your chin, on your face, over your eyelids, etc. Show more concern about the lack of constructive knowledge inside your head. He said it best for me.

Monica Arac de Nyeko was born and raised in Uganda. She is a teacher of literature at St Mary’s College Kisubi (SMACK), and a fellow on Crossing Boarders, a British Council-funded Creative Writer’s Course. Her forthcoming fiction is by Fountain Publishers and Greenwillow books.

Monday, 21 January 2008

5 months lcoked

I can't believe that i have been locked 5 months today! There isnt actually that much to report on the hair front. To me it still looks the same as it did last month. I did go longer before washing it last Friday (18:01:08), waiting 5 weeks. It was really itchy after the re-tight and i wanted to wash it then, but it pasted. It wasnt itchy so i didnt bother to wash it, but then it got really itchy last week and thought yep time for a wash. I took my time B&B so not to cause slippage and i think all is well. I have my next re-tight in two weeks so i will see then. I could do with a re-tight now but 2 wks should pass quickly.

One thing i am looking forward to is being able to put my hair in water and not be concerned. the other week i had a bath, dont get it twisted i bathe every day but usually a shower. I really really wanted to put my head under the bath water but i had not B&B so i could not. Once my locks are matured that is one of the first things i will do

Below are pics of my locs